The Ideal Situation

Read any article or book about effective leadership, and you’ll find exceptional listening and clear communication to be two tips offered. It makes sense, right? When your team member comes to you with a challenge, the best thing you can do is listen. Without interrupting. Without chiming in with solutions. Then when that team member finishes, you can ask clarifying questions to ensure you understand the challenge as they see it. By communicating clearly and respectfully, your team member feels seen, heard, and understood.

Sounds ideal, doesn’t it? [Read more…] about 3 Steps to Greater Leadership Understanding, Curiosity, and Open-Mindedness

The Letter of Resignation You Never Expected

Perhaps you’ve seen this quote attributed to Tim McClure on social media: “The biggest concern for any organization should be when their most passionate people become quiet.”

Sometimes it happens over the course of time, and you don’t even notice it. That is, until the day that passionate team member submits a letter of resignation. 

Initially, you’re shocked. You’re confused. You’re angry. [Read more…] about Employees Going Silent? Try These Practices!

Showing Up as a Stressed Leader

I’d been working with Adam for a month when he described a situation that had his stress level at an all-time high.

As Director of Operations at a rapidly growing company, Adam is ambitious, goal-driven, willing to take risks, and organized. When I was initially hired by Adam’s employer to offer support for the leadership team, his boss shared not only his positive attributes but also some areas that could use some improvement. To that end, she told me there are times that Adam comes across as aggressive, irritable, impatient, and competitive to such a degree as to negate any positive effects. [Read more…] about 10 Tips to Add Some Calm for the Type A Leader

Lack of Accountability: It’s Not a Good Look

I recently had a poor experience with a company I hired to complete a project. Over our three-month engagement, I repeatedly felt pushed aside and insignificant.

The company’s phone system sends its customers straight to voicemail, and after leaving messages on several occasions, I never received a call back. Trust me when I say my squeaky wheel received absolutely no grease. [Read more…] about The Accountable Leader

The Common Theme That’s Far Too Common

I noticed a theme in three recent conversations.

Convo 1 was with a client who shared she feels like she’ll never “catch up”. She works 60 – 70 hours each week, and in her long workdays, she rarely gets up from her desk to take a break of any kind. She doesn’t see how she even could take a break given her responsibilities to answer client inquires quickly via phone and email.

[Read more…] about Survival Mode Doesn’t Have to be Your Forever Mode

The Normalization of Feelings

“I’m okay. I’m not scared. I’m brave.”

I smiled hearing those words from my four-year-old granddaughter as I tucked her into bed on a recent Saturday night. I’d turned the lamp on low, surrounded her with stuffed animals she’d brought from home, kissed her, and asked if she was okay. And then I heard her words of courage.

[Read more…] about Feelings, Leadership, & the Workplace

What-If Questions and the Choices We Make

What-if questions are never scarce on social media. They give you the space to ponder decisions you’d make in various, unlikely circumstances:

• If you had a superpower, which one would you want, and why?
• If you won the lottery, would you keep working your current job, give most of your winnings to charity, or sail off into the sunset with your piles of cash?
• If you could have just one, which would you choose: someone to clean your house, cook your meals, or run your errands?

They’re fun, right?

[Read more…] about Decision-Making, Leadership, and Technology’s Part in It All

As 2021 winds down, it seems like the perfect time for some reflection.

In my work with leaders, I have found most are at either end of a wide spectrum. Some go the route of completely chilling out and relaxing after the hard work they’ve put in all year. Others choose not to extinguish the flame and instead ignite it even more by working until the clock strikes 12:00 on New Year’s.

I’m of the belief that there’s good to be had by finding some middle ground, and that middle ground can be achieved with some focus on areas that result in huge returns.

[Read more…] about 10 Focus Areas for Leaders This Holiday Season

Compassion is a Must-Have

As part of my own professional development, I joined a group focused on relationship building. The coach who leads the group recently asked us to share a message of who and how we help. I shared my message:

I help evolving leaders build a motivated, effective team by embracing not only best practices but also confidence in themselves and compassion for their people.

A fellow group member spoke up and shared some constructive feedback.

[Read more…] about Leadership and Compassion: A Dynamic Duo

A New Kind of Ghost

As a young girl, I was used to hearing about ghosts in the month of October. Of course, right? Skeletons, goblins, jack-o-lanterns, and ghosts. They’re all part of the scariness and fun of Halloween.

In recent years, though, ghosting has taken on a new meaning. It first made its presence known in the online dating world and even found its way into the dictionary as a new entry in 2017:

Ghosting: the act or practice of abruptly cutting off all contact with someone (such as a former romantic partner) usually without explanation by no longer accepting or responding to phone calls, instant messages, etc.

Today, ghosting isn’t just for online daters. It’s present in the professional world as well.

[Read more…] about Ghosting in the Professional World

Ordinary Joe and Parallel Stories

I’ve become obsessed after only two episodes of the new NBC show Ordinary Joe.

In it, the main character Joe has three choices in front of him on his college graduation day: spend the day with Amy, a girl he just met; spend it with Jenny, a girl he’s known for a while; or spend it with his family. Then his life is depicted in three parallel stories of what might have happened had he chosen each of the three options.

Essentially Joe gets to live out the ‘what ifs’ of the decisions he could have made on that one day in his life.

It’s thought-provoking to watch the good/the bad/the ugly of each scenario, and the story lines reinforce an important idea: every day, without fail, we are met with decisions to make, options from which we get to choose, and the positive and negative consequences of said decisions.

[Read more…] about Decide and Override the ‘What Ifs’

The Tweet That Got Me Thinking

Dan Price, CEO of Gravity Payments, recently tweeted:

“An Ohio factory raised pay from $13.70 to $18.25. Its staff grew 35%. Profit doubled. The extra labor helped them fill more orders. After I doubled minimum wage at our company, our revenue tripled. Invest in your employees, and your business will thrive.”

I saw the tweet shared on LinkedIn, and as you might expect, comments surfaced on every segment of the spectrum from those who wholeheartedly agree with Mr. Price’s opinion to those who couldn’t disagree more.

[Read more…] about Invest in Your Employees and Thrive

The Joy of Harmonious Dialogue

You know the feeling of talking with someone and realizing in the course of the conversation that you and that other person ‘get’ each other?

You speak the same language, have like values, and see the world in similar ways.

I got to experience that feeling recently when I ran into an acquaintance I hadn’t seen in quite some time. She updated me on her new role of COO for the business she’d been with for a decade.

After sharing my heartfelt congratulations, the topic quickly turned to leadership and her ambition to further develop the current and future leaders within the organization.

[Read more…] about Just Say No to the Quick Fix

The Devil is in the Details

The line was 15 people deep outside the DMV when I arrived to renew my license and get my REAL ID. According to the paperwork I’d received from the Secretary of State, Illinois residents will need the REAL ID to board domestic flights beginning October 1, 2021.

I’d spent some time the day before collecting the various documents of identification as listed on the form. As I waited in line, I watched a DMV employee go from person to person to see what service they needed.

Some people left the line after talking with the employee because they were missing required documentation. I noticed the employee’s style. He was stern and took no guff from anyone.

[Read more…] about Leadership Lessons at the DMV

Making decisions was once a kid’s game.

As summer draws near, my mind goes to the carefree summers I enjoyed as a kid. For those three months from sunup to sundown, my siblings, neighborhood friends, and I would create nonstop fun from one back yard to the next.

One of our favorite summertime games was Chalk the Rabbit, and I have a feeling it may have been a favorite because it spanned a two- to three-block radius in our neighborhood. That equates to expansive freedom in a kid’s eyes!

[Read more…] about Decide Like a Leader

It’s a Zoom world we live in.

I joined a Zoom meeting along with 67 other professionals last week. Tiny Brady Bunch squares popped up all over my computer screen, most of them with a simple first name to represent who was ‘behind’ the square. Only a handful of faces looked back at me. The brave few who actually turned on their cameras.

Since the pandemic started last year, Zoom has become a verb. “Hey, let’s Zoom this afternoon, okay?” “Can we Zoom to see if we’re on the same page with this project?”

[Read more…] about It’s Time to Say NO to the Hustle

The Superhero in the Lego Bucket

When my first grandson was born 10 years ago, our toy collection was quite small. Just a few stray toys from my own kids that I’d never managed to donate all those years ago.

A decade later, that toy collection has grown quite a bit as has the number of grandkids enjoying them. When they’re all at our house, it’s fun; it’s loud; it’s chaotic; and it’s messy. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.

[Read more…] about 3 Tips to Refocus and Reframe Your Leadership Beliefs

Gifts from the Universe

It seems the older I get, the more I notice the gifts the Universe provides for me.

Case in point—One day last week I saw the following quote on social media:

“A ship is safe in a harbor, but that is not what ships are built for.” This comes from the book Salt from My Attic by John Shedd.

The next day I was meeting with a group of coaching peers, and I shared that I was raised in a very structured household. I’m the seventh of eight kids, and my mom was a master of schedules and routines.

[Read more…] about 4 Steps Out of the Safety Trap That Holds You Back

The scene was set.

I saw the running. I heard the honks. I felt the energy. But I still wasn’t sure what was happening.

The action was about a block and a half down the road along my daily walking route. With my less-than-stellar vision, I could see two girls, one running and one zipping along on a scooter.

As I got closer I could see that each time a car passed, the girls stood next to each other with their chins held high, their right arms outstretched confidently, and their right thumbs posed upward.

[Read more…] about Courage and the Scooter Crew

2020. A year that will go down in infamy.

In the year 2100, kids who are currently five years old will be telling their great grandkids about remote learning, masks, and the vaccine that turned things around (fingers crossed).

It’s true this isn’t the year any of us imagined when we celebrated on January 1. What’s also true is that 2020, like everything else, has more than one side to it.

[Read more…] about 5 Ways to Look at the JOY Side of 2020

The Love Language Phenomenon

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman has been around since 1992 and has sold over 12 million copies. That means for almost 30 years people have not only been learning about their own preferred language when it comes to love; they’ve also been encouraging their partners to take the quiz so they can be ‘in the know’ about their preferences.

The Investment Language Proposition

A recent podcast review of the book (Shelf Help with Tracy and Amanda) got me thinking about other kinds of languages—or preferences—we all have. For instance, I completed an inventory recently that came from my financial advisor. [Read more…] about Invest in YOU and Win- But Only Every Time

As a student, English was one of my favorite subjects. I enjoyed learning about grammar and fondly remember diagramming sentences in fourth grade. Those memories came rushing back recently when a client told me, “I used a period, not a comma, and it was incredible!”

She wasn’t talking about English class, though. She was talking about a conversation she’d had with her team member at work.

[Read more…] about I’ll Take My Feedback with a Period and No Comma, Please

Saying goodbye to summer seemed to be easy for many this year. I’m not sure if it’s the desire to scoot 2020 along as fast as we can with the hope that 2021 will bring blessings this year hasn’t or if it’s just that I’m around more people who prefer pumpkin spice lattes to the Arnold Palmers that summer delivers. Regardless, throughout the month of August I began seeing houses adorned with beautiful fall mums, pumpkins, and even yard displays with bales of hay, scarecrows, and Halloween decorations.

2020 may not provide the Halloween we’re used to, but that doesn’t mean we’ve given up the wearing of costumes. I actually believe many of us wear them every day—just not in the form of witches, princesses, and superheroes like we once did. [Read more…] about Save the Costumes for Halloween

Sure, the negative effects are there.

COVID-19 is responsible for many negative effects that we’re reminded of daily in what seems like an auto-repeat format. On TV, the radio, and online as well as communication from friends, family, and colleagues, the talk of COVID and everything horrible about it is anything but scarce. But does it have to be that way?

Trust me; I get that the negative effects are there. Many of them are factual and can be proven. [Read more…] about Leadership Wins in the Time of COVID-19

This year is a year for leaders to shine. You can shine, too.

The year 2020 is a year many may want to forget. I believe 2020 is a year for leaders to shine. It’s a year where leaders have even more opportunity to grow their leadership abilities. A year where leaders can show their teams what they’re really made of. A year for leaders to develop resilience, determination, and discipline like they’ve never known before.

As organizations are moving through the various stages of change, I’ve begun sharing the ABC method with them. It’s simple. It’s effective. And it’s something that can be used at any time. [Read more…] about The ABCs of Leading Through Change

How to become an effective leader starts with your containers.

I have a confession to make. I am obsessed with containers. Big or small, round or square, plastic or metal—they fascinate me. I’ve always attributed this obsession to my need to be well-organized. After all, who doesn’t enjoy opening the pantry door and seeing crackers, nuts, and baking products all stacked neatly in containers? (Please tell me I’m not alone in this!)

The precision of it all fills my heart with joy, and I’ve come to realize that this container obsession doesn’t just happen in my pantry. It shows up in other areas of my life, too.

My brain, for instance, has a nice lineup of containers filled with long-held beliefs. [Read more…] about Step 1 to Leading Others Effectively

A new darkness has come over the world, it seems. A darkness that brings with it uncertainty, fear, anger, sadness, and impatience.

And yet in the midst of the darkness, some normalcy remains for there is still work to accomplish, projects to complete, deadlines to meet, and client relationships to nurture. [Read more…] about 5 Tips for Leading Your Teams to Work From Home

I clumsily stepped onto the escalator. As I adjusted my carry-on bag to fit on the step with me, I simultaneously hoisted my laptop bag more securely over my shoulder. Chicago O’Hare is a busy airport so I was mindful of keeping my things close to leave space for the sprinters who may run past me on the way down. [Read more…] about 3 Tips to Help You Lead Yourself and Others

Our minds are powerful.

The older I get, the more I’m in tune with the power of the mind. I’ve heard people compare a mind to fertile ground. Whatever is planted in it will flourish.

I’ve also heard the mind compared to a rubber band because of its ability to stretch and grow. That growth theme is present in the Oliver Wendell Holmes quote, “The mind, once expanded to the dimensions of larger ideas, never returns to its original size.” [Read more…] about Did You Know Your Mind is Like a Rubber Band?

Rewrite your story with inspiration and action.

I expand in abundance, success, and love every day as I inspire those around me to do the same.

I read that affirmation, or ultimate success mantra (USM), last year in The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. The content of the book taught me so much, but it was this affirmation that I ran with upon finishing the book. I eagerly wrote it on Post-it notes and put one on the mirror in my bathroom, another on the dashboard in my car, and a third in my wallet. I wanted to see it and read it and soak it in multiple times per day. [Read more…] about 3 Practices That Helped Me Rewrite My Story

Are there areas of your life you’re working to change?

We needed new furniture. The set my husband and I had had for several years was in dire need of retirement. When guests would come over and sit on our couch or big, comfy chair, I worried they may not be able to get back up due to the years of use those cushions had endured. [Read more…] about 4 Tips for Committing to Change in a New Year

Now that you know your approach, it’s time to learn from it.

Last month we talked tortoises, hares, and ostriches. Sounds a bit like Dorothy’s lions and tigers and bears, and maybe it is just a bit. Dorothy and her friends feared the lions, tigers, and bears they thought they may encounter, and we, too, fear lack of progress with our goals. When we realize that’s exactly what’s happening, we show up as a tortoise, hare, or ostrich. None of these approaches is ideal, but it’s how many of us show up as we deal with the frustration of not achieving what it is we most want. [Read more…] about You’re a Tortoise. Now Let’s Apply That To Your Life.

You’re working on changing your story.

You’ve put in the work and taken all the action you should take. But you’re still not getting the results you want.

What do I do now?

You’re not alone. This is one of the most frequent statements coaches hear from their clients. The client hires the coach to accomplish a goal, achieve a milestone, or realize a result; she invests time and money in that coach; she does all the things; and she spins out when those things don’t produce the desired result.

You might be asking yourself, what am I doing wrong? [Read more…] about I’m Taking All the Actions and Still Not Getting Results. Now what?

Allowing Room in Our Lives for our Needs

I am a woman of routine. I eat the same five or six meals with no desire to venture too far out of what I know and like. I stay in touch with the same friends I’ve had for decades—the ones who have known me through many stages of life. I go to the same church I’ve always been part of. And I walk the same three-and-a-half-mile route several times each week soaking in the beauty of the same tree each time I walk past it. Right behind the tree is the house my parents moved into on my first wedding anniversary. My dad spent 30 years there; my mom spent 20. After they were both gone, my daughter and her family bought the house, and it is where they’re now raising their family. [Read more…] about Are You Making Room in Your Life to Fulfill Your Needs?

Crossing from Unsatisfied to Fulfilled

Last month, I shared the importance of getting our feet muddy while going after desired changes in life and crossing what I call the Ditch of Despair. This month is all about the how-to portion of crossing that ditch. How exactly do we get from the side of the ditch we’re on, the side where we’re unsatisfied, to the other side, the side where our biggest dreams come true? [Read more…] about The Ditch of Despair, Part 2: How to Cross the Ditch

Change starts slowly.

Women hire me because they long for change. They want to feel more fulfilled in their relationship with their significant other. They want the business they started to be more successful. They want to be fully present with their kids after the workday is over (even when emails and texts continue finding them at home). They want to feel less overwhelmed, less stressed, and more worthy of an incredible life.

These women not only long for change; they long for change that happens quickly and easily. And they don’t want to get stuck along the way in what I refer to as the “ditch of despair.” [Read more…] about The Ditch of Despair, Part 1: Understanding the Work of Change

Passion and Purpose

Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of Eat, Pray, Love suggests there are two types of people in the world: we all either fall into the jackhammer or the hummingbird category. When I first heard about her theory, it intrigued me. 

So what is this theory? To understand that, we first have to understand the two categories. [Read more…] about “Following Your Passion” Isn’t for Everyone

What is spiritual clutter?

With the popularity of Marie Kondo and her Netflix series Tidying Up, many of us are paying more attention to the physical clutter in our lives. Some of us are even clearing out that clutter.

Marie’s goal, according to her website, is to help more people tidy their spaces by choosing joy. As Marie helps families rid themselves of things that no longer bring them joy, she asks them to thank those items for what they’ve provided. Essentially the KonMari method not only helps people clear their physical clutter; it also helps them clear their spiritual clutter.

Spiritual clutter is lack of peace; lack of contentment; lack of forgiveness. [Read more…] about Decluttering Part 5: Spiritual Clutter

Emotions Impacting Your Life

I am a life coach. When I share my profession with people, I get a variety of responses. I know when I’ve met someone who gets what I do when I hear this:

“Great! I need to ask you something!” And this post is dedicated to those people. The questions they ask are also often asked by others. They’re important questions. They’re meaningful questions. And they’re questions that get to the core of what all humans experience. [Read more…] about Decluttering Part 4: Emotional Clutter

Mental Clutter

Clutter. When we hear the word, we most often think of physical things—the stuff that literally gets in our way, the papers that cover our dining room tables, the boxes full of we-don’t-even-remember-what on our shelves. It’s another type of clutter, though, that is responsible for holding us back and getting in our way in an even more invasive manner—mental clutter. [Read more…] about Decluttering Part 3: Clearing Out Mental Clutter

Digital Clutter

In the five decades I’ve spent on this planet, technology just keeps making life easier. We no longer need to unfold that huge map in the car when trying to find our vacation destination (thank goodness). Wondering what the outside temp is? No need to walk out the front door, look in today’s newspaper, or even get out of bed. Simply ask Alexa (or Echo or Siri…you get it), and you’ve got your answer. CDs, cassettes, and those wonderful eight-track tapes are also a thing of the past now that music streams wherever and whenever we want it.  [Read more…] about Decluttering Part 2: Digital Clutter

Clutter from All the Stuff

I think we can all agree we have too much stuff. For the few who may not be in agreement, here are some startling statistics from becomingminimalist.com:

• Storage units are part of a billion-dollar industry.
• The average American home holds 300,000 items.
• 25 percent of people with two-car garages don’t have room to park cars inside them.
• Over the course of our lifetime, we will spend a total of 3,680 hours searching for misplaced items.

Yes, physical clutter is a thing. A really big thing for so many people.  [Read more…] about Decluttering Part 1: Physical Clutter

A New Year with Less Clutter

A new year. A fresh start. It seems January is the one month of the year we all agree to set ourselves up for success in the year ahead. We wipe the slate clean and energetically jump into the new year with resolutions and goals to achieve.

That energy? It doesn’t last long. The clutter we tried to manage in the prior year somehow finds its way into the new year. Before we know it, we’re back to doing everything the way we used to, the way that feels comfortable and easy. It’s also the way that doesn’t help us achieve what it is we most want in life.  [Read more…] about Clearing Our Clutter for an Extraordinary Year

Are there areas of your life you’re working to change?

We needed new furniture. The set my husband and I had had for several years was in dire need of retirement. When guests would come over and sit on our couch or big, comfy chair, I worried they may not be able to get back up due to the years of use those cushions had endured. [Read more…] about 4 Tips for Committing to Change in a New Year

Recognizing Old Patterns

The holiday season is upon us again. For some, that fact brings thoughts of delicious food, memorable songs, fond traditions, and amazing time with family. For others, not so much. In fact, according to a survey from Think Finance, forty-five percent of Americans would actually prefer to skip Christmas.

There are probably as many reasons for why some people dread the holidays as there are toys on Santa’s sleigh for all the children in the world. For today’s purposes, though, let’s tie the holiday theme back to last month’s theme of replacing our bad habits with good ones.  [Read more…] about Change Your Old Pattern of Coping with the Holidays to Enjoying Them

Recognizing Old Habits

I raised a son who is an analyzer extraordinaire. When our family (eight adults and five young kids) decided to spend a week together in one house for a vacation we’d never forget, our son got to work finding the perfect house for our crew. He pored over the listings and finally found a home that was built just a few months ago. It had everything we needed: bedrooms and bathrooms for us all, a large kitchen/dining/living area, outside decks and patios and lanais, and even a pool for everyone to enjoy.

When we arrived, though, we learned it also had something we didn’t need—a ground floor made up of a laundry room, bathroom, and kids’ bedroom along with a sliding door leading out to a gorgeous pool.  [Read more…] about Making Lasting Change in Your Life Starts with Nourishing Good Habits

Effective Leadership Requires Many Skills, Including Self-Care

Leadership is difficult. It involves a daily lineup of needed skills and responsibilities. Diplomacy, accountability, problem solving, decision making, delegating, goal setting, team building, innovative thinking… The list could go on for days.

Effective leaders—the kind that leave a positive imprint on our professional slate—understand that consistently bringing their A-game to their leadership role is essential. It is that A-game that develops team members and encourages them to bring their best to the table impacting the overall success of an organization.

I have the privilege of working with several A-game leaders, and I’ve been amazed at how many of them add a needed item to each day’s to-do list: self-care.  [Read more…] about Becoming a Leader Part 3: Practicing Self-Care

Be a Better Leader by Knowing Your Truth

The truth. It’s what we expect from others, and yet, it’s often difficult to accept when we do receive it. Life teaches us that sometimes the truth hurts. And often when it does, that’s exactly what we need to create a new, better truth. What is a better truth? A better truth is what your everyday results can be—if you accept the hard truth and commit to implementing changes. Oh, boy, does that sound simple! It rarely is, though, right?  [Read more…] about Becoming a Leader Part 2: Embracing the Hard Truth

Qualities of Leadership

A 45-minute break between client meetings typically means I head to the nearest coffee shop. Once inside I’ll cover my lap with a napkin for warmth from the frigid air-conditioned atmosphere of noisy espresso machines, people chatting and the clacking of laptop keyboards.

On this day, though, I decided to practice the self-care I encourage my female coaching clients to practice. I went to a nearby park and sat on a bench hoping to soak in some of the summer sun before I walked the short distance to my next meeting.  [Read more…] about Becoming a Leader Part 1: Winning Trust with Curiosity

Understanding

I watched an acquaintance from afar for a few months. First, I noticed she’d been dropping out of activities she’d always been part of. Someone who had been a steady presence in my circle of activities vanished, and I wasn’t sure why. She is the dynamo I’d always seen taking charge of committees and helping those in need and signing on to lead new initiatives.

Next, my grandson told me she was ill and couldn’t continue teaching his class (a volunteer position I knew she loved so much). At the time, I remember hoping it was a short-lived illness. Soon I did see her here and there. I didn’t ask her about her illness, though, for fear I’d be prying.  [Read more…] about 3 Unexpected Lessons on Making a Lasting Impact on Others and Yourself

Born Introvert

Being the seventh of eight children, there were many traditions well underway by the time I came along. One such tradition was the baby picture from Olan Mills we each had taken at around a year old. The six pictures before mine each showed a baby smiling from ear to ear. Mine? Not so much. I was a baby with curls on her head frowning at the photographer. After many attempts to get a smile out of that baby, Mom told me he finally snapped the pic of the frowning baby, giving up. Some would say I just wasn’t in the mood for a picture that day.

As time went on, though, and I moved beyond the childhood years, I came to realize that my you-don’t-impress-me-much attitude was sticking with me. [Read more…] about What Being an Introvert Looks Like for This Entrepreneur

The Hamster Wheel

Wake up. Shower and get ready. Go to work. Do the work. Drive home. Make dinner. Clean up the mess. Go to bed. Repeat. And repeat again. And again and again and again. It’s the hamster wheel of life that we often don’t even realize we’re on.

I remember running on that hamster wheel earlier in my career. I’d earned a job title that included the word director, and that meant my time while at work had to be used in the most effective ways. I needed to be on all day (run, hamster, run). The meetings I was part of needed to be focused on the agenda’s bullet points. The employees who came to me needed answers quickly so they could get back to the work of bringing on more clients and keeping the current ones happy. My calendar had to be full of appointments that would ultimately increase the bottom line for the organization.  [Read more…] about 3 Tips to Help You Take Charge of Your Time and Your Life

Networking.

When you read the word, what comes to mind for you? Joy? Excitement? Eagerness? Anticipation?

Or would you rather get a root canal than go to another networking event swarming with people focused on self-promotion and selling?

I recently attended a networking luncheon with the intention of learning more about the topic being shared as well as meeting some people I could get to know better at one-to-one meetings in the coming weeks. I accomplished my first goal but can’t say I’m satisfied with my progress toward the second.  [Read more…] about 3 Networking Tips to Help You Achieve Your Best ROI

Handling the Unexpected

A man is called into his boss’s office where he is ceremoniously told his 17 years with the company are much appreciated, but his employment is coming to an end due to a reduction in force.

A girl is called out of her 7th-grade science class so her mom can share the news that her dad was killed by a drunk driver on his way to work that morning.

A seasoned professional who is reaping the rewards of his career success gets the results of his recent medical tests, and he doesn’t get the news he was hoping for.

A young woman in her first year of college reads the + sign on her pregnancy test.

What do all of these people have in common? They’ve all found themselves in a situation they never would have chosen. And they all have a choice in how they handle it.  [Read more…] about Lifehack: How to Choose Happiness Even in Less Than Ideal Situations

Learning and Retaining Skills

How old were you when you learned to ride a bike? Four, five, six, or seven-years-old? I think I was five or six when my older brother and sisters began working with me day after day after day.

The process was simple: I’d get on the bike, and they’d run along beside me while holding the back of my seat. I’d scream from fear as I did my best to fall onto the soft grass rather than on the sidewalk. I’d get up, and we’d start the process all over again the next day.  [Read more…] about How to Retain the Soft Skills You Learn

It’s a New Year

As we turn the calendar page to a new year, many of us are motivated by the clean-slate feeling that a new year brings. We get caught up in how this year will be different than the last. We’ll eat healthier; go to the gym more frequently; learn new skills to help us in our work roles; and finally understand the new technology in our own homes (thanks to our kids who explain it to us!).

With that high level of motivation, though, how often do we think about sharpening our soft skills?  [Read more…] about Let Soft Skills Lead You to Job Success in the New Year

A Solemn Oath for a Girl

On my honor, I will try:
To serve God and my country,
To help people at all times,
And to live by the Girl Scout Law

I remember reciting this pledge to kick off each Girl Scout meeting many years ago when I was learning to cook, sew, and provide childcare all in an attempt to earn those badges for my sash. I hadn’t thought about those scouting years in decades, but tucked inside a goodie bag I received at a networking event last month was a Girl Scout bookmark that really got me thinking. Right at the top of the bookmark, I read “DNA of a G.I.R.L.: She’s a go-getter, innovator, risk-taker, leader!”  [Read more…] about What I Learned about Being a Girl

Your Most Prized Possession

If someone were to ask you what is your most prized possession, what would your answer be? And is your answer today different than what it would have been earlier in life? As we move through the stages of life, we change, grow, and learn, and what’s important in one stage of life might not mean much to us a decade—or two or three—later.  [Read more…] about Recognizing Real Value Through The Power of Sharing